Whether you choose to ignore them or respond, make sure you reiterate that you’re not interested so that they understand. Me either,” then say very delicately, “Well, honestly I’m not looking for anything right now,” just remember not to add “with you” on the end. I showed up in court and asked for nothing, so the judge just said the marriage was over. Once a phone cord that wasn’t that near me, acted liked a snake restricting. I honestly have been taking two steps forward then two steps back for the previous two years – but in the past few weeks of very modified contact, I’ve seriously felt a ‘shift’ in how I feel about my ex. YOU BRING SO MUCH LIGHT AND HOPE TO ALL OF US READERS!! BuzzFeed writer Grace Spelman knows this firsthand. AND RAPING YOUR HEART. As the children were getting older, they could arrange to met her in town without us being in attendance. But do i say something first to him? Everything you need to know about and expect during, the most important election of our lifetimes. THANK YOU !! But I have never successfully rid myaelf of my narc…he disappears for extended periods of time only to find someone to use to get to me…. We are not victims, they are. Eventually the marriage broke up and eighteen months later I met him. MAY YOU KEEP HELPING OTHERS TO HEAL. I said that I wanted to leave on good terms, all transactions were cordial though it was a drain to deal with the situation. This way, they can feed off of your affection and your energy without ever really sacrificing much from their end. If you are being stalked and you do take legal action and obtain a restraining order make copies of the restraining order and keep them where you can get to them easily. Though she is not earning and spend most of her time at home, whenever I am at home, we end up fighting. I’ve had to do this before. I have zero feelings for my ex. I am tired of up and down emotions. I am going to block you so I won’t be able to receive your messages. He is in prison & he is doing proxy, recruiting, & hiring, family & friends almost everyday. Fast forward to November 2017 – I had already been telling him I wish he would leave but he demanded he was not going anywhere. !he doesn’t call me or text anymore Walter puts ever thing on me please help to understand I went back sooo many times I cant do this anymore to much pain cant eat or sleep. Unfortunately he does not see it, but everyone else does. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Its 2 1/2 months since he kicked me out of our home and I’m on my second attempt at NC- day 10. Have you had a narcissist that is suicidal and depressed? There are people out there worthy of your love and loyalty. Love the encouragement and practical advice! I had many break ins. I’m currently married to a narcissist trying to get out. I FEEL A SENSE OF GAINING MY LIFE BACK WHILE CLEANING OUT THE GARBAGE! Learn about us. He was leading a double life with another woman for years possibly my whole marriage but I will never know because he does not communicate with me. Now he calls on Sunday’s to FaceTime our baby but that’s it. You can stop leaking your energy to them- which drains you and makes them feel energized – by blocking them completely. He cut off his facebook posts to my page but I can read his posts, 99% political anyways. I could never have done this if I stayed in touch with him. But the longer I’m away from him the less I want to see or talk to him. Just NO. I don’t know how to proceed. Narcissists aren’t them. he can say, I’ll call ya back in 3 days and it doesn’t happen. People are frustrated because the narcissist texted them or left a voicemail, and won’t leave them alone when they’ve made it clear to the narcissist they want to end things. I’m “in love”…this is my “soulmate”…What to do??? Can’t go to the police because I can’t prove anything. How should i go about that once this is final. I decided to cut her off after she insisted that I was being too sensitive when I told her that I was exhausted by her consistent derogatory comments about my self worth. Stopping a partner from seeing friends or family 5. Tell him how you feel and that it’s either friendship or it’s not anything. That you don’t want contact anymore and then block them? Or, how do you get a guy to leave you alone without being mean? I feel bad for her even though at nearly 2 she doesn’t have any kind of bond with him other than he’s Dadda in the phone. Hi Diane. If they still don’t get the hint, tell them clearly. I appreciate all of your articles… With gratitude Mary Beth. If he says something like, “Perfect! For especially persistent people (e.g. I’m April we had a fight and he left me and our then 1 year old daughter to go home (another state) for the past 6 months he has been gone we have been talking, him wanting to come home but not having the money and was saving up, said all the right things, sent me presents etc and now a month before he was going to come back he has orchestrated an argument and then stopped speaking to me, after saying he will never be good enough and I should go find someone else and stop tormenting him. The information above truly resonates. HIs posts portray somebody he is not and I’m tired of looking at the phoniness of it all. I couldn’t believe how accurate your posts are, It’s like you know me inside out. The turning point for me was going to the local domestic violence center. I know it’s not easy, but I would part ways with him, offer him good wishes, and move on with your life. Thanks for the information on how to cut off a person that fits your assessment. For more tips from our co-author, including how to report someone for harassing you, read on. Neener neener Mr little Weiner. So here are the four lists of things to do when his ex won’t leave him alone. Don’t mistake packages or flowers as a token of regret or of missing you. To the narcissist, they’re equally fulfilling. I tried for 3 years to “reason” with him in the hopes that he would confront the issues but not happening! We’ve been taught as a society that we can achieve the impossible if we just don’t give up. Learn how to manage stress like a therapist. the charm, the great conversations, great sex altho way in the past but such closeness to have him keep drifting away. No amount of counseling, religion, or herculean efforts on your part will change the outcome. This one is not even my narc. I hope I stay on my path and continue to not look back. I took to reading everything I could get my hands on . He’s the most selfish person ever. Today, I finally decided to end things and go No Contact. Perhaps his Ex won’t leave him alone because she doesn’t see things like the way you see them.