He will do this also if he sees you on social networks having fun without them. Hopefully someday soon you will grow to love your self wholly and only accept a real and authentic relationship if that is what you truly desire. Guys will do this when their ego is being hurt and especially if you’re the one who initiated the breakup. Listen calm down…every one has some or the other time,when it comes to facing ex! Only then and exclusively then you can consider the option of giving him a second chance. Not your circus, not your monkeys. Because my ex won’t let me. 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Great advice above, I'd just add that I've had good results by spelling out to the person that you are recording their messages and will be contacting the police regarding the harassment. He might find comfort in still having me around while he starts to learn what single life is and meet new people, but that’s not a comfort to me. This guy is bored and on a power trip and trying to make his drama your drama. But I guess with you, just say. It depends on what your friend is doing and how long you’ve been friends for. They turn into jelly psychos who lose control over themselves. I’m sure he doesn’t take me seriously. I feel like he’s keeping me around as a backup plan. I’m not going to live my life waiting to be a man’s second choice. Sometimes he doesn’t want to leave you alone because he wants to play some mind games with you. 2 comments. He might just want to get rid of the feeling of being guilty and that is why he needs your approval that you’ve forgiven him so that he can continue with his life. We talk a lot about emotionally unavailable men on this site. share. Posted on August 25, 2011 - By Veronica Wells. He threatened to take a restraining order out on me (I made the mistake of threatening to disrupt his life this time because I was angry he’d tricked me a second time). I didnt mean to tell him that. I’m the one who’s hurting. And getting him to think about you is exactly what will make him wonder why the heck he asked you to leave him alone. Find out more about how we use your information in our Privacy Policy and Cookie Policy. And you’re right about it. If it’s over then I want the entire relationship to be over — no friendship, just exes who officially part ways for good. Print out copies of communications. I'm ready to be over my ex. Pls help me. Do you think that he might have changed in the meantime? Why? I don’t want to be the girl he falls back on just in case he never meets anyone better suited for him. He simply cannot accept the fact that you’re having the time of your life while he’s rotting inside and waiting for you to notice him. I tried this and it didn't work. Join 6,437 readers in helping fund MetaFilter. I don’t care if he thinks he still needs me in his life, I need him out of mine. Get some power players on your side. I don’t see why we want to see things where there aren’t any. There are no results for the term you are looking for. Who cares why he is doing this-it is not what you want or need, so…stop responding to his texts. He has told me things about his family and things no body actually knows about him. I knew he would get jealous when I talked to other people. He wants booty and will keep coming back unless you make it clear that he won’t get any unless he commits. Also, if you’re seeing him, pay attention to his body language and always read between the lines and this will help you find the real reason why he won’t leave you alone. This went on for a good two years, running hot and cold towards each other. He even introduced me to his sister and she was keen to get to know me. Guys sometimes decide to haunt you only because they feel lonely. Every time I texted him, he would reject me through text but then would come back at staff parties and follow me around, again people were telling me he likes me, he’s just shy and that he needed to cut his balls. Lots of good suggestions here so far. I’m not his friend. If he keeps doing this, give him an ultimatum and tell him that you’ll block his every contact until he comes to his senses. He doesn’t want me, to commit to me, yet he won’t leave me alone. report. I can’t be the person he leans on anymore. I just don’t understand why he wont just leave me alone. Moving on means leaving him behind. I like you a lot but it seems like you want something different”. I shouldn’t have to act the part of the girlfriend when I’m not actually his girlfriend anymore. Everyone kept telling me to not give up when I wanted to. I did speak to him for about an hour and then he left. The most critical time is at night and if he texts you every night how much he misses you and cannot fall asleep without you, know that it is true. Avoid him at work…… We can never be friends because we’re exes, and that’s exactly what I need us to be so that I can move on. Stop responding to his texts. Information about your device and internet connection, including your IP address, Browsing and search activity while using Verizon Media websites and apps. 5 Surprising Reasons Why He Is Avoiding You, 7 Surprising Reasons Why Men Hide Their Feelings, 6 Reasons She Will Leave You Even If She Loves You. You have to take that seriously! She enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun. HuffPost is part of Verizon Media. I can’t be “just friends” with him. These chemicals create an intense attraction and you feel like you can’t live without that person. My colleague’s birthday came up, he didn’t even get on with this colleague, so I thought, weird that he’d go to his party since they don’t get along. I feel like I’ve given up so much of my self respect for this guy. 100% Upvoted. so I decided it was best to stop seeing each other. We've joined the BHM Digital family of websites and have updated our Terms of Service and Privacy Policy. It's also entirely possible this won't happen, but, best to be prepared, so have a conversation with HR and make sure your employer knows about it on an Official level beyond quiet words to coworkers. Maybe it makes him feel better for us to stay in touch, but it’s only making me feel worse. At the end of the day, he can’t be my priority anymore. If he’s the one who initiated the breakup and now he’s constantly trying to reach you and subtly apologizing to you, it is an ultimate sign of guilt. “It seems like you don’t want to be with me, so leave me alone, I don’t want to be with someone who wants something casual, we can remain being friends but don’t follow me like as if you want me. You can change your choices at any time by visiting Your Privacy Controls. You are right to take this very seriously. He will try to get a second chance from you just because he’s sure that you’ll fall for his nice words and whatever he decides to sell you. And it is not cliche. Have you had boundaries while the two of you were together? That is why he simply cannot stop contacting you and he will always try to initiate conversations even if you’ve specifically told him that you’re not interested in any kind of communication with him. Avoid him at work…Stop…. I went NC I was lucky enough for him to leave the job as he got promoted so it was easier for me to ignore him. This is one of the most common reasons why guys don’t want to leave you alone even though you’re finally happy without them. that way you both know you’re on the same page. I can’t pretend that our relationship never happened — all I can do is try to move forward. Her stories are real and unedited. And if you accept him back, know that nothing will change, yet you will become just friends with benefits. He wants to lure you into his world again only to tell you that he doesn’t want you anymore. Seems to me what he is doing is, he isn't acting like a friend. I then gave up, obviously, he’s not interested, our workmates convinced me he did like me. You may use these HTML tags and attributes: If you’ve found yourself wondering, “Why won’t he let me go if he doesn’t want me?”, here are 6 things you need to know about removing yourself from this type of relationship. Black women Ask him what it is he wants from you if he doesn’t want commitment since you only stated that it’s not healthy for your sanity, that’s not really telling him much, be specific. I said OK. I started liking a guy at work, I told him about how I liked him, he just got out of a relationship. Long story short – I dated a guy for the most of this year, didn’t work out for several reasons (didnt trust him, lots of baggage, “cant” commit) etc etc. You remind me of a mother that says no to her kids and then gives in. 2 kids. Can anyone tell me how to explain to him that we just need to stop talking for awhile. I dont know, I’m just upset and wanted to vent/hear some advice or support. I know it will be more difficult when you have to see the guy every day — but really — this is only so challenging when you don’t love and respect yourself enough and know exactly what you want. I know that’s what’s best for me. He calls me pet names. The material on this site may not be reproduced, distributed, transmitted, cached or otherwise used, except as expressly permitted in writing by A New Mode, Inc. We’re not together. The two of you broke up and suddenly he’s been calling you on a regular basis, sending you gifts and trying to talk to you desperately. In the process of thinking about you, he might consider trying to call or inbox. Right now, I need to do what’s best for me. His main interest is to boost his ego and prove to the world that he’s capable of winning you again even though he doesn’t have intentions to keep you. We and our partners will store and/or access information on your device through the use of cookies and similar technologies, to display personalised ads and content, for ad and content measurement, audience insights and product development. According to the book, it counts as a form of contact and can cause a stalker to escalate. I thought things were good. 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